It’s a well-documented truth—studies have shown that as we grow older, our circle of friends tends to shrink. You may have noticed it yourself: the friendships that once felt inseparable gradually shift, and the people who were once central to your life may now feel like distant acquaintances.
I often think back to my earliest friendships—those formed in primary school, high school, and college. In the whirlwind of new experiences—orientation, dorm life, shared struggles—we naturally gravitated toward certain people. Bonds were built effortlessly. But as life changed, so did our connections.
Recently, I learned that one of my oldest friends is expecting a baby. When a mutual friend shared the news, I felt a deep warmth and happiness for her and her growing family. Yet, I didn’t reach out. I didn’t send a text or make a call. Not out of malice or indifference, but simply because time had created a quiet distance between us. We had been inseparable for years, but as life took us in different directions—different colleges, careers, relationships—the closeness we once shared faded. Neither of us was to blame.
So why do some friendships change or even dissolve after years of deep connection?
Looking back, I’ve realized that some friendships from my past were rooted in my own unresolved emotional patterns. As I grew into a more self-aware and emotionally healthy version of myself, certain friendships no longer aligned with who I was becoming. Letting go wasn’t easy, but it was necessary.
That being said, I truly believe that friendships can last. The key lies in mutual dedication, open communication, flexibility, and a shared understanding of each other’s human limitations. Some friendships will fade, while others will evolve and stand the test of time. And along the way, new friendships will emerge—each one shaping us in its own way.
...THROUGH MY EYES ✨ 